Arguments

When you boil down a lot of destructive arguments, what you often find is a simple lack of facts. The conflicts begin when an individual sees something that bothers him and then draws a conclusion. But what he thinks he sees may not be true at all. There's nothing new about this advice. James, the Lord's brother, wrote, "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (James 1:19, NIV).

- From "It Takes Two to Tango" by Gary and Norma Smalley

Keeping Alive Romance and Security

Remaining tender during a trial is one of the most powerful ways to build an intimate relationship (James 1:19-20).

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